Handfasting: Blending the Old with the New.
The Rising Popularity of Handfasting in Wedding Ceremonies
Handfasting, an ancient tradition with roots in various cultures and religious practices, is experiencing a resurgence in modern wedding ceremonies. This ritual, which symbolises the binding of a couple's hands to represent their union, offers a deeply personal and meaningful addition to wedding celebrations. Here, we explore the history, symbolism, and contemporary appeal of handfasting, and how it can be seamlessly incorporated into your special day.
Historical Origins: Agreement or Love?
The origins of handfasting are rich and varied. Historically, it was often more about agreement than love, acting as a betrothal binding arranged by elders or chieftains to unite two families. The term "handfasting" is derived from the Old Norse word "handfestr," meaning to strike a bargain or bind, reflecting its role as a pre-marriage agreement. In many cultures, this ritual marked an engagement period before the formal wedding, allowing the couple to live together for a year and a day to determine their compatibility.
Transition to Modern Love Ritual
Although initially rooted in practicality, handfasting evolved to symbolise love and commitment, especially as it was adopted by various religious and spiritual groups. By the late Middle Ages, handfasting had become a recognised practice among Christians, having been introduced by earlier Pagan traditions. Today, it is a popular choice for couples of all backgrounds, seeking a unique and meaningful way to express their bond.
Symbolism and Meaning
Handfasting is celebrated for its flexibility and the depth of meaning it can convey. Couples often choose ribbons or cords in specific colours, each carrying its own symbolism:
Red: Passion, love, strength, vitality, and courage.
Yellow: Joy, happiness, intellect, energy, and communication.
White: Purity, innocence, new beginnings, clarity, and peace.
Blue: Tranquillity, understanding, patience, devotion, sincerity, wisdom, and faith.
Green: Growth, fertility, renewal, health, harmony, and prosperity.
Purple: Spirituality, wisdom, power, ambition, and dignity.
Pink: Love, compassion, nurturing, joy, and tenderness.
Orange: Creativity, enthusiasm, energy, warmth, and balance.
Brown: Stability, reliability, grounding, and endurance.
Black: Strength, protection, elegance, and mystery.
Silver: Clarity, vision, insight, and balance.
Gold: Prosperity, success, longevity, and good health.
Grey: Neutrality, compromise, and wisdom.
Each colour chosen reflects the couple's values, hopes, and intentions for their life together. For a more in depth look at the symbolism of colours, take a look at this blog post.
The Modern Handfasting Ceremony
The resurgence of handfasting is partly due to its portrayal in popular culture and the increasing number of celebrants offering personalised wedding ceremonies. Influences from television shows like Game of Thrones and Vikings, as well as movies such as Braveheart, have introduced this beautiful ritual to a wider audience. Today, handfasting can be performed by celebrants who tailor the ceremony to the couple's preferences, whether they seek a traditional or modern approach.
Incorporating Personal Touches
Couples often personalise their handfasting cords, using materials that hold special significance, such as fabric from a family heirloom or colours that reflect their relationship. Some choose to decorate the cords with charms, trinkets, or small photographs, adding layers of personal meaning to the ritual. Involving family members, friends, or children in the ceremony by having them place the ribbons can also enhance the sense of community and shared joy.
Conclusion
Handfasting is a versatile and profound way to symbolise the union of two people, drawing on rich historical traditions and personal significance. Whether you are looking for a unique addition to your wedding or a meaningful way to celebrate your commitment, handfasting offers a beautiful and memorable option.
If you're considering incorporating a handfasting ceremony into your wedding, we would love to help you create a ceremony that truly reflects your love and commitment. Contact me today to explore the possibilities and make your special day even more unforgettable.